Confidence & Self Esteem
All about Confidence
What is Confidence?
Confidence is something that most people struggle with at some point in their lives. While it is often associated with public speaking, presentations or social situations, a lack of confidence can affect many different areas of life, including relationships, work, decision-making and the ability to pursue new opportunities.
Confidence is not something we are simply born with; it develops through experience, learning and repetition. The more we practise a skill or face a situation successfully, the more capable and confident we tend to feel when encountering it again in the future.
When confidence is low, it can be easy to doubt ourselves, focus on what might go wrong or avoid situations that feel challenging. Over time, this can lead to staying within familiar surroundings and comfort zones, which may provide temporary relief, but can also prevent personal growth and new experiences.
Low confidence and self esteem are often influenced by past experiences, negative self beliefs or patterns of thinking that have developed over time. The good news is that confidence can be built and strengthened. By developing a better understanding of these patterns and learning new ways of thinking and responding, it is possible to feel more self-assured, resilient and comfortable being yourself.
Building confidence is not about becoming perfect or never feeling nervous; it is about learning to trust yourself, recognise your strengths and move forward even when situations feel challenging.
Therapy for Confidence and Self Esteem
The most effective approach to building confidence and self esteem will depend on your individual experiences, challenges and goals. Because confidence can be influenced by so many factors, I tailor therapy to your specific needs rather than taking a ‘one size fits all’ approach.
Hypnotherapy can be particularly helpful for situations where confidence is affecting a specific area of life such as public speaking, interviews, social situations, driving, exams or performance related activities. By helping you access a relaxed and focused state, Hypnotherapy can support positive changes in the way you think, feel and respond in situations that may previously have felt challenging.
Where low self esteem has been present for some time, or where past experiences have contributed to negative self beliefs, talking therapies such as Counselling and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can be beneficial. These approaches can help you understand the origins of self-doubt, challenge unhelpful patterns of thinking and develop a healthier, more balanced view of yourself.
Therapy can also help you recognise your strengths, build resilience and develop greater self confidence in both personal and professional situations. As your confidence grows, many people find themselves feeling more comfortable stepping outside their comfort zone, embracing new opportunities and approaching life with greater self belief.
"This experience has been brilliant for me, it has literally changed my life."
Frequently Asked Questions
Which type of therapy do I need?
The most appropriate type of therapy depends on your situation and the problem or issue you would like to address.
Most therapy sessions involve a blend of hypnotherapy and talking therapies. We will discuss your situation at your first session and decide on the best approach for you.
How long is each session?
Standard therapy sessions are 50 minutes in order to maximise concentration and get the best from the process. Your first session is usually a little longer (approximately 60 to 90 minutes) to allow sufficient time to discuss your situation and answer any questions you may have.
What happens in a therapy session?
Therapy sessions provide a safe, supportive and confidential space for you to explore your situation and talk openly about the difficulties you may be facing.
During your first session, we will discuss a range of areas connected to your situation, which may include current challenges, thoughts, feelings, past experiences, patterns of behaviour and the changes you would like to make moving forward.
At each session, we will review your progress since we last met and use a combination of therapeutic approaches and techniques tailored to your individual needs, with the aim of helping you move towards the changes you would like to achieve.
You may be given exercises or suggestions to work on between sessions. These are designed to build on the work we do together during therapy and can help you develop new skills, perspectives and ways of responding to situations more effectively.
How often do I need sessions?
Hypnotherapy sessions are typically 2 to 3 weeks apart as this allows sufficient time for your subconscious mind to process new ideas and for you to start making changes.
Other types of talking therapy sessions such as Counselling, are usually weekly, especially in the early stages.
We will discuss the frequency and number of sessions during your first session.
How much does it cost?
Please see the fees page for more information.
How many sessions will I need?
There is no ‘one size fits all’ approach to therapy, so the number of sessions required can vary from person to person. Everyone’s situation is different and some people experience changes more quickly than others.
The number of sessions you may need will depend on a range of factors, including the nature of the problem or issue, your personal circumstances and your level of motivation, commitment and participation throughout the therapeutic process.
Hypnotherapy works on a subconscious level and is often considered a relatively short-term approach, with many people finding between 4 and 6 sessions helpful for a variety of issues. However, this will depend on your individual situation and the changes you would like to achieve.
With talking therapies such as Counselling or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), an initial course of 6 sessions is often recommended, followed by a review of your progress. Some issues can be resolved within a relatively short period of therapy, while others may benefit from longer-term support. Many people find that meaningful progress can be achieved within 12 sessions or less.
During your first session, we will discuss your situation in more detail and consider the most appropriate therapeutic approach for your needs.
Will therapy work for me?
If you are motivated and committed to making changes, hypnotherapy and talking therapies can be highly effective. However, because every person and situation is different, it would be unethical to guarantee a particular outcome or result.
There are a number of factors which can influence how successful therapy may be and people often respond differently depending on their circumstances, readiness for change and level of participation in the process.
In general, there are several reasons why therapy may sometimes be less effective than hoped for:
- You may not yet feel fully ready to engage with the process or make the changes you would like to achieve.
- You may be attending therapy primarily because somebody else would like you to, rather than because you personally want things to change. For example, you may feel under pressure from a partner, friend or family member to attend therapy.
- There may be underlying or subconscious ‘secondary gains’ connected to the behaviour. This means that, despite the difficulties it causes, the issue may be serving a protective or beneficial purpose in some way. For example, fear of flying may be linked to worries about being away from home or separated from loved ones.
Hypnotherapy and talking therapies have helped many people to create positive and lasting changes in their lives. However, therapy is a collaborative process and your motivation, openness and participation are important parts of achieving the best possible outcome.
Why do I need to complete therapy tasks between my sessions?
Many of the problems or difficulties people seek therapy for can develop as a result of past experiences, unhelpful patterns of thinking or learned ways of responding to situations. In order for lasting change to take place, it is often necessary to develop new ways of thinking, responding and behaving.
During therapy, you will be introduced to a range of self help tools and techniques designed to support the work we do together within your sessions. These approaches can help you build greater understanding, develop new coping strategies and make positive changes in the areas you would like to improve.
The way these techniques are used between sessions, along with your level of motivation, commitment and participation, can have an important influence on the progress you make. Therapy is a collaborative process and active involvement often plays a key role in achieving positive and lasting change.
Free Consultation
If you have any questions or are unsure whether therapy is right for you, I offer a free 20 minute online consultation via Zoom.
Free Hypnosis Audio
If you’re wondering what hypnosis feels like, check out my free 10 minute Deep Relaxation Hypnosis MP3. You can also find more information on my YouTube channel.
